A Mixtape About a Penchant for Emotional Unavailability.

First things first, you must admit: unavailability is attractive. You have this quote-friend-unquote. You share beers, you share spit, you share the occasional cold bed which you warm every weekend after your friend convinces you that you are too drunk to go home. Just stay the night. This must sound ridiculously familiar to many of us.

“Why do you keep coming back to your friend’s bed?”, you ask yourself. Precisely because the unavailability is attractive; It is precisely because the lack of commitment is attractive. You are friends, you convince yourself as you pull up your pants the next morning, the mutually beneficial kind.

Think of this mixtape as a story unfolding, we begin with:

The Magnetic Fields’ “Papa Was a Rodeo”, about a wanderer who is very used to leaving people behind to get back on the road. Emotionally unavailable people almost always come with a disclaimer: “I have commitment issues.”

So it begins: you start calculating about the elaborate possibilities of all the times you will be together–whether in your head this will lead to romance or just doing all the fun sans the drama of a commitment.

You come over once a week because either one of you need cheering up as you use Voxtrot’s words: “Cheer me up/ I’m a miserable fvck”

But as Eaten By Monsters has very aptly sung, it will eventually come to this: “Friends who kiss are not really friends at all. One of them kisses hoping that the other would fall.” Over and over again, you say you are just friends, as you listen to Wilco before you sleep sing, “But I promise/ We’re just friends.”

You try your best not to fall in love with your friend, yet it begins. – DK Leomo

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Contents:

1. The Magnetic Fields – Papa Was A Rodeo
2. Stars – Elevator Love Letter
3. Yeah Yeah Yeahs – Modern Romance
4. Her Space Holiday – Japanese Gum
5. Belle & Sebastian – The Wrong Girl
6. Chairlift – Make Your Mind Up
7. Math and Physics Club – Love or Loneliness
8. Voxtrot – Kid Gloves
9. Wilco – We’re Just Friends

(plus a link in the entry to Eaten by Monsters – Friends Who Kiss)

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